Reducing dependence on the phone
I have made a concerted effort this year to reduce my dependence on my phone, after my husband called it ‘your boyfriend’ at the end of last year.
I started using a small notebook to write things down on, rather than just grabbing my phone to make a note. These are things to get from the shop to blog post ideas. I track quite a lot of things too, books read, ideas I want to look into, books I want to read etc. I jot a lot of things down daily, so taking those lists out of my phone and into a notebook has made a difference.
I’ve just switched to using a small Filofax, so that I have my diary in physical format, as well as the notes in one place. Everything helps! Even though I feel a bit old school, I have always loved having a Filofax with everything in one place. I find it deeply comforting in and of itself.
I’ve deleted a lot of apps and I have removed them all off of my home screen, so that all the apps sit in one folder in the dock of the phone. I’ve removed Facebook and Twitter apps altogether. All of these things help me. When I pick up my phone I see my lovely dog, and no apps. It reminds me that I don’t want to spend my time on my phone.
Needless to say everything single notification, aside from text messaging and the actual phone is switched off.
But what makes the biggest difference in my life is not grabbing my phone in those small moments, waiting for meetings, in a queue etc. Now I look about me and notice my surroundings, or read, or even just take a moment to pray or meditate.
This is very relaxing, our phones are such demanding things, eating up huge amounts of times and also encouraging anxiety. Looking at our phones all the time is a form of FOMO – fear of missing out, that something might be happening that we don’t know about.
This, coupled with no social media at the weekend, is slowly making my life a less stressful place, which is something I desperately need.